Entrepreneur's Inner Game Podcast with Nina Cooke

I Agree With Jennifer Aniston About This

Hi Reader,

I’m not a fan of Jennifer Aniston, or anything like that, but I recently read something she said, and thought, “You are so right.”

Jennifer fell out with her mother when her mother gave a television interview about their relationship.

This is what Jennifer said:

“As adults, we can’t carry on blaming our parents”. 

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Are you still blaming your parents for what life’s dishing out to you? Do you blame them for your lack of confidence, for never getting a break, for feeling you don’t fit in, and so on?

Me too.

I grew up thinking I was inferior to everyone else, I wasn’t worth listening to, that there was something wrong with me.

So I created a survival strategy to get through life:

The more I could hide away, the less chance people would find out how flawed I was.

What a great strategy, hey?

And guess who I blamed for all this?

My parents.

It was their fault I felt like this because of the childhood they’d given me.

Then the penny dropped. 

Nothing they’d done was making me feel I wasn’t as good as others.

I was feeling like that because of my THINKING. From the MEANINGS I’d created around my childhood memories. Eg. all those times my Mum didn’t listen to what I was saying when I was growing up… meant I wasn’t worth listening to.

With a mind-blowing clarity, I saw my feelings of worthlessness had NOTHING to do with my parents. They had EVERYTHING  to do with my thinking and the meanings I was innocently creating around events that had happened in my life. 


This led me to make a life-changing decision that has changed EVERYTHING for me.

I decided to take 100% responsibility for how I felt about myself because my feelings were being created 100% by me, by my thinking.

I took responsibility WITHOUT blaming myself.

No more blaming anyone including myself. Ever. Again.

Now I don’t waste headspace blaming my parents for what’s showing up in my life. They did the best they could, given their thinking. 

With all that extra headspace, I get to focus on myself, on my personal growth, just by clearing out made-up meanings that were keeping me stuck.

How about you?

What do you blame your parents for?

Or are you ready to free up lots of headspace by taking 100% responsibility for your feelings and everything that’s going on in your life?

It’s your choice.


Nina x


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